In the summer of 2016, I spent a few days in the beautiful coastal town of St Andrews, the home of golf, once the ecclesiastical capital of Scotland, and the site of the third oldest university in the English-speaking world.
It’s a position I don’t understand anymore at all. I remember reading a NYT article in the early 2000’s of the same nature. A man was fearful of kissing in NYC on 8th Avenue center of a gay area and that we hadn’t progressed enough.
At the time I traveled monthly for work globally. My husband would drive me to the airport in Houston Texas, get out of the car and big smooch leaving. When I met gay friends in public non-gay venues in Houston, we kissed hello. Now SF same state. Nobody I know in Houston seemed to hesitate for a second to kiss or hold hands.
I’ve had humorous experiences around the world with my husband, never shame.
I don’t understand it anymore. The world has changed since I was a child in the 60’s.
I don’t think it has anything to do with gays for
You or the NYT writer, everything to do with expressing affection to anyone perhaps.
Thanks for your thoughtful comment. I respectfully disagree, however - I know of others, both young and old, who have felt similarly to the way I describe. And, of course, I know very well how I, myself, felt!
Thanks for sharing, Callum - that's very interesting stuff. Maybe you're right, maybe it's just a matter of waiting for the right person. Then again, the ex of whom I speak felt like the right person at the time (the whole 5 months we were together, that is!).
Don’t take me wrong - nothing to disagree with. I just don’t understand it, quite simply. We’re in 2023, gay marriage is heading to the 10th anniversary, I’ve been married 25 years next year. I and my family and my husband’s family are loud and affectionate. I find that people in general have become incredibly physically un-affectionate in the last 25
Years. It’s so strange. I dont understand it. It’s consistent with the fact that younger people are having a lot less sex. I’m physically affectionate with friends, the older they are the more freely it’s reciprocated…
It’s a position I don’t understand anymore at all. I remember reading a NYT article in the early 2000’s of the same nature. A man was fearful of kissing in NYC on 8th Avenue center of a gay area and that we hadn’t progressed enough.
At the time I traveled monthly for work globally. My husband would drive me to the airport in Houston Texas, get out of the car and big smooch leaving. When I met gay friends in public non-gay venues in Houston, we kissed hello. Now SF same state. Nobody I know in Houston seemed to hesitate for a second to kiss or hold hands.
I’ve had humorous experiences around the world with my husband, never shame.
I don’t understand it anymore. The world has changed since I was a child in the 60’s.
I don’t think it has anything to do with gays for
You or the NYT writer, everything to do with expressing affection to anyone perhaps.
It’s not a condition of gaydom for decades.
Thanks for your thoughtful comment. I respectfully disagree, however - I know of others, both young and old, who have felt similarly to the way I describe. And, of course, I know very well how I, myself, felt!
Thanks for sharing, Callum - that's very interesting stuff. Maybe you're right, maybe it's just a matter of waiting for the right person. Then again, the ex of whom I speak felt like the right person at the time (the whole 5 months we were together, that is!).
Don’t take me wrong - nothing to disagree with. I just don’t understand it, quite simply. We’re in 2023, gay marriage is heading to the 10th anniversary, I’ve been married 25 years next year. I and my family and my husband’s family are loud and affectionate. I find that people in general have become incredibly physically un-affectionate in the last 25
Years. It’s so strange. I dont understand it. It’s consistent with the fact that younger people are having a lot less sex. I’m physically affectionate with friends, the older they are the more freely it’s reciprocated…